Don’t ever make a conclusion on a person’s character or self, solely based on hearsay. If you would not believe that my sister has six legs simply because I’ve said so, until you see a picture of her and her six legs, don’t conclude that a person is an angel, a devil or something else in-between because someone else has told you to.
I don’t have a sister that has six legs.
If I had told you that my sister had a leg instead, you probably would have believed it because it sounds very realistic that a person would have just one. Then you tell someone else that my sister has just one leg and (she had an accident when she was four or she had an infection or whatever you come up with). The dissemination cycle continues- they tell someone else, and the someone else tells someone else. Now, everyone is beginning to look at me strangely because my sister has one leg and I ate the other one. Everyone is being mean to me because I eat human flesh, and they don’t want to be eaten. No one has taken any of the information or gossip with a grain of salt.
Ask yourself these questions about your significant other:
1. Do they make me feel safe? 2. Do they make me feel anxious? 3. Do they make me feel less than they are, or do they make me feel like their equal? 4. Do they boost my self-esteem or kill it? 5. Do they make me smile or laugh? 6. Do they appreciate my talents and work, however amateur? 7. Has this person shown me that I can trust them? 8. Would I consider them a good person? 9. Are they appreciative? 10. Are they loving/caring? 11. Do they respect me? 12. Do they apologize whenever they are wrong? 13. Do they want what’s best for them, or what’s best for us? 14. Do they understand me, or have a desire to? 15. Do they want to hear me speak, and do they listen when I do? 16. Do they make plans to see me and stick to them? 17. Do we share similar values? 18. Have they hinted that they are not interested in a relationship? 19. Have I been honest with what I’m looking for in a partner? 20. Am I just lonely or do I enjoy spending time with them? 21. Do I think they’re physically attractive? Is that the only reason I like them? 22. If I was in trouble, could I call this person and ask for help? 23. Do I think he/she loves me? How have they shown it to me that they do, if they claim to? 24. Has this person physically or verbally abused me, directly or indirectly? 25. Would I trust this person to be around my children? 26. What does this person lack that I said I really wanted in a partner? Would I be okay/happy without it?
Written by Reid [emeraldlotus.ca] + Aderonke [writething.ca]
First, you make mistakes, then you let them make you. You are not your mistakes; pay no mind, if you begin to hear “boo”. “Experience is the best teacher”; that, in fact, is quite true. Fall, then raise yourself back up, there is nothing you can’t do.
I’M MISS TAKE, THE OLDEST TEACHER; I TEACH HIM, AND I TEACH HER. YOU BECOME YOUR BEST AS A CREATURE WHEN YOU REALIZE THAT YOUR SCAR IS YOUR MOST-ATTRACTIVE FEATURE.
Were there terrible men and women in your lives, relatives or non-relatives, at any point, who found it pleasing to compare your beauty to someone else’s, in order to get to you and make you think less of yourself or get you to agree to whatever perversion they wanted to try with you.
“You are fine but not as fine as your mother. Why are you feeling yourself? Remove your skirt, let me see your legs” and such.
I bring you healing. You are beautiful, and I’m not just trying to patronize you. Don’t ever let anyone determine what you think of yourself.